Much often used phrase, but mostly to camouflage a wrong action. But in its real context it sure is true!!
War….. to begin with, in itself is not fair as it brings pain to all involved whether an enemy or the defendant. Love, is what should be there between all humans. But that’s an idealistic thought which in today’s world is unreal due to loss of trust on each other.
War against terror; killing Osama Bin Laden….. now isn’t that fair? All the fanatics, of any religion for that matter, if resort to forcing their thought, belief on others and end up terrorising people, then a war to stop them by any means is FAIR!
War to defend honour,that too is fair! Killing for fun, due to hatred or for money is but, unfair.
And Love is definitely fair too, the unconditional, selfless love! A mother’s love is the most unselfish love and if she has to protect her child from any harm she might forsee by whatever way she can think of, then that too is FAIR!
An obsessive love which leads to somebody getting hurt physically or emotionally is however not fair.
It all depends on each person’s perspective. Like Laden was convinced of righteousness of his actions so he waged a war and obsessive lovers feel their obsession justified…
I guess then all is fair in love and war!